Target Employees Bully Breastfeeding Mom Despite Corporate Policy

Although Target issued a corporate statement supporting nursing mothers in 2006, apparently they are still falling short on efforts to educate employees about their policy.   (You may remember the incident in 2006 reported by thelactivist and the incident in 2009 reported by Crunchy Domestic Goddess.)

Yesterday, we received a phone call and an email from Michelle Hickman about her treatment in a Houston Target Store on November 29th. Michelle is organizing a nurse-in at the store for December 28th at 10 a.m.  For more information, join the Facebook group Michelle has started.  Here is her story: “

I am a mom of 4 who has been harassed and humiliated by Target employees for nursing by infant in their store. On Thursday, November 29th around 7-8pm, I was Christmas shopping with a basket full of items when my infant woke up hungry, so I found a remote area of the store in the ladies clothing department close to the fitting rooms and sat Indian style on the floor next to my basket and a display of jeans and nursed my hungry baby with a blanket completely covering him. Briefly I will say that 2 female employees came and verbally asked me to move. The 2nd one told me that Target employees had been told/trained to interrupt nursing and to redirect mothers to the fitting rooms. Even after I informed the 2nd employee of my legal right to nurse in public she still suggested me moving closer to the jean display, turning to face another direction, and also turn my basket a certain way which would have put me practically underneath the jean display and totally barricaded me in. Employee #2 even hinted in a threatening way “you can get a ticket and be reported for indecent exposure” when nothing was being exposed and there was more boob showing from low cut shirts several shoppers were wearing that night. This does not include the other 3-4 employees besides the 2 verbal ones who were all watching and making a spectacle of my nursing by standing around pretending to do something and giving me mean looks and shaking their heads no back and forth. In a side note not a single non-employee customer ever saw the incident so I’m not sure why the employees were trying to act like I was offending “the public” and that it was their job to step in.

After I left the store I decided to call the Target corporate office during normal business hours the following day on November 30th, and speak to a guest relations person to notify them of the situation and to suggest that they educate their employees as to the legal right I have to nurse in public. The phone call however took a turn for the worse. The lady (I wish I would have gotten her name) told me that she and Target were aware of our legal rights as nursing mothers, but that Target has different policies because they are a family friendly public place. I can’t think of a more family friendly act than breastfeeding and providing the irrefutably proven healthiest diet to my baby. She continued to inform me repeatedly that Target’s policies were different than the law and even went as far to say several times that just because it is a woman’s right to nurse in public even without a nursing cover like I was using doesn’t mean women should walk around  “flaunting it” and was extremely rude. I also talked to the supervisor of this rude lady and that didn’t get anywhere either.

It saddens me that mothers are being treated this way as if breastfeeding is vile and offensive. If this would have happened to me with the first child I nursed I would have considered giving up on nursing due to embarrassment and that is what concerns me the most. I know that breastmilk is best and that nursing is hard work and a selfless act that mothers choose to do for their babies, and I would hate for this to happen to someone else causing them to give up on nursing. Please help me support the best nutrition for babies and to make a stand in support of nursing in public so this doesn’t happen again.

“Target has a long-standing practice that supports breastfeeding in our stores. We apologize for any inconvenience the guest experienced and will take this opportunity to reaffirm this commitment with our team members,” company representative Kristi Arndt said.

“For guests in our stores, we support the use of fitting rooms for women who wish to breastfeed their babies, even if others are waiting to use the fitting rooms. In addition, guests who choose to breastfeed discreetly in more public areas of the store are welcome to do so without being made to feel uncomfortable.

Clearly, this policy is not translating through to employees. Best for Babes hopes that this can be resolved quickly before December 28th and that Target will implement improved employee training across all stores and for all new hires so as to end harassment and discrimination against nursing customers.  We have contacted Target headquarters and have offered to help develop materials that can help them effectively communicate with their employees about nursing in public; our information is being passed on to the employee training department and we will keep you posted!

We hope that Target will take this issue as seriously as any other anti-discrimination policies, and make a greater effort to educate employees that breastfeeding benefits everyone, is truly beautiful, and that ALL mothers deserve to be cheered on and encouraged, whether they breastfeed for 2 days, 2 months, 2 years or not at all! They may even find that their own employee breastfeeding rates improve, which only helps the company’s bottom line, since every $1 invested in corporate lactation programs yields a $3 return.  We hope they will turn to “The Business Case for Breastfeeding“, an excellent program and toolkit for employers developed by  Despite recent advances in employer and insurance policies, we still have a long way to go to change our culture, and we need Target to embrace this opportunity and apply their fantastic marketing skills to improving the public perception, and the perception of their employees, towards breastfeeding!

Take Action:

1.  Contact Target to share your thoughts (thanks to Crunchy Domestic Goddess for the info).  Be constructive and polite :  Target Corporation, 1000 Nicollet Mall, Minneapolis, MN  55403.  Guest Relations: (800) 440-0680 or (612)304-6073

(7a.m. to 6p.m. CT, Monday through Friday) or email:

2.  Inform mothers of their rights.  Click here for your state breastfeeding laws.  Also, thanks to PhDinParenting via Crunchy Domestic Goddess for this excellent information: This woman, and any woman, that experiences this type of harassment should report it to FirstRight. They maintain an inventory of such harassment cases and can also help mothers to figure out the best course of action (for example, nurse-ins can be good tools but are not always the best first step). Here is the link to FirstRight:

3.  Ask your elected officials to support the Breastfeeding Promotion Act.  The stronger our national policies, the better for everyone.

Let us know if you have any other suggestions!

222 thoughts on “Target Employees Bully Breastfeeding Mom Despite Corporate Policy

  1. A man and a woman enter Target simultaneously. Equality ends there. She now has power and control over the shopping experience. She will decide what is discretionary. She will decide when an embarrassed look is a leer. And, she will decide whether to call security. You just wanted to get in and out, but mommy decided her needs were more important. Give me one hour a week to shop without feminists, goddesses, man haters, and gender supremacists, and I would be forever grateful.


    1. I personally would like to be allowed to breastfeed my child, in public when necessary without worrying about oppressive, woman hating, misogynistic jerks. In case you are still living under a rock somewhere, we are equal, we are allowed to vote and we have voted on laws that allow us nursing women to feed our babies in public. Get over it.


      1. This all started with some redneck woman who decided to plop her lazy butt on the floor in the middle of the clothing racks on the dirty carpet of a retail store to breast feed her baby. All the employee did was offer her a chair that happened to be nearby in the fitting room, off the dirty carpet to feed her baby. Sheesh. The looks probably didn’t have anything to do with breast feeding but where the woman decided to do it. Because of this, all employees are directed to ignore breastfeeding mothers, so if they will have to ask where one is if they want to sit in a chair.


      2. Susan I definitely agree. I am a mother of 3 and I have breastfed all 3 of my children. And I never once cared about what anyone said, because if it was going to be a problem for me feeding my baby in public then for me it was going to be a fight. I am not a Breast Feeding peer counselor who encourages mothers to breast feed there babies. I enjoy doing this and would not change it for the world. Keep your determination and let no keep you from giving your baby the best of health.


    2. What an odd set of things to complain about, Robert. Women don’t have some unique right to be squicked out by random men following them through a store or leering at them. If someone makes you uncomfortable then take steps to protect yourself, including calling security if the guy just won’t take the hint. Yes, men can also decide when to call security. Men are just as capable as women, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I do have a question though, two actually. How is a parent feeding a hungry child being selfish and putting their OWN needs above everyone else’s? And how does someone else, wholly unconnected to you, sitting down for a few minutes to feed their hungry child impact your ability to get in and out of the store quickly? It doesn’t. Unless the person “selfishly” stopping to feed their hungry child is your wife, in which case I’d just like to point out that she’s being a great parent and YOU’RE the one deciding your needs are more important than anyone else’s. P.S. Your vitriol on the subject of women being so weirded out by a guy that they resort to CALLING SECURITY sounded a little personal. If the women you encounter throughout the day are made so extremely uncomfortable by you on a regular basis, it’s you, not them. Regular men haven’t had security called on them so frequently that they develop a complex about it and take every opportunity to rant about it. Examine your own behavior and consider altering it. Seriously.


    3. Robert,

      You wouldn’t be alive if it wasn’t for breastfeeding, silly. Why on earth should breasts be only considered ‘tits’?! Do you complain when you see women wearing sexy tops, or see photos of women in push up bras? Why on earth would you have a problem with women feeding their babies? It’s absurd. It’s also illogical to think this has anything to do with man-hating. It’s about feeding their child.


  2. I know this is really old, but I can’t help but chime in . . .

    It really amazes me every time I stumble upon a debate about breastfeeding in public. I have never had any real “incidents” while breastfeeding and so it surprises me to see people can be so antagonistic.

    I am very sorry for all the people that get uncomfortable when they see a mother nursing her child. I think, more often than not, the mother is not “whipping it out” or “flopping a breast out” or “intentionally exposing herself” or doing anything simply to get a rise out of passers by. Most parents simply don’t want to hear their babies cry and will do what they can to stop the crying. Many breastfeeding mothers are more than self-conscious enough and simply trying to do what is best for their child. Maybe they aren’t thinking rationally, maybe they are frazzled, maybe they fed the baby before, maybe the baby refuses a bottle, who knows? Nobody would blink at a baby with a bottle. It is just eating, even if the vessel makes you uncomfortable. Watching an fat person eat grosses me out, but I respect their right to continue eating! I don’t LIKE to see immodestly dressed people, but I recognize one’s right to dress as they choose. I don’t LIKE to see toddlers with pacifiers and sippy cups (language development impediments!) but I respect the parents choice to do what they believe is best for their child and their own sanity.

    Maybe this particular woman’s choice to sit on the floor wasn’t the smartest decision, and maybe she is exaggerating the harassment that she endured. However, it is more important that people are properly educated about breastfeeding (and World Health Organization recommends TWO years whether or not you think it is ‘weird’) and that we support parents who are simply trying their best to carry out the best feeding practices they can, feeding practices that have been NORMAL since the evolution of mammals. You can roll your eyes that women are up in arms about something as simple as breastfeeding but I can roll my eyes that people are up in arms about something as simple as a little bit of breast showing – you must only watch movies and television geared toward toddlers – do you close your eyes when walking past billboards and magazine stands? If breastfeeding is the most breast you see, I would love to know how you managed to create your G-rated sheltered world, I would love to raise my daughters in that paradise where women are half naked everywhere you turn.


  3. I live in Toronto, Ontario and we have a number of Target stores in my area.
    I recently was in a Target with a friend of mine, also a new mother, when both or our babies started fussing and needed to be fed.
    Not knowing where else to go, as we figured no one wanted to listen to two screaming children, we found comfortable chairs in the patio department and began to feed.
    A number of employees walked passed us, even a few customers, and all we received were a few smiles.
    We were in the open, although not on display, and not one bad look, comment or anything.
    I feel for the woman in Houston, however that was not even close to my experience and I wonder if it is the manager of that store who needs some more training. It’s a shame that Target got a bad rap (however justified) as I have had nothing but excellent experiences there, the best customer service so far.
    Not to take away from the negative experience of the woman, but I do want to say that not all Targets are the same.


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